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Here are some thoughts and experiences about saying not yet from teens your age.
“I love school and am into boys, but I’m not into sex. I think I’m going to avoid that for a long time. I want to finish school and go to college to be a nurse!”
— Amy, 13
“My boyfriend isn’t a virgin and he totally respects me for my decision not to have sex yet. In fact, he’s proud of me because I proved that I can say no. We talk about sex, but we both keep in mind that it’s not gonna happen anytime soon.”
— Adrienne, 14
“Waiting to have sex is important to me because it could ruin my plans to go to college and go live in Alaska.”
— Jesse, 13, Duluth
“When I get married, my husband and I are going to be able to give each other a very special gift. We’re going to be able to say to one another, ‘There was never and will never be anyone else and you were worth the wait!’ And who wants any chance of getting an STD?? Not me!!”
— Erin, 17
“I’m not ready to have sex and I’m not ready to take on the responsibility that a baby brings.”
— Samantha, 14, Ogilvie
“I was and still am being brought up knowing the effects of having a baby and why I should wait until I am ready. At school, I hang out with people I know would never have sex until they are old enough and I know that I would have a really small chance of even being put in a bad situation, because of who my friends are. I have other things going for me that I wouldn’t be able to do if I had a baby. I think higher of myself than to have sex. Plus, I know enough about what could happen to know better.”
— Alex, 14, Duluth
“I’m waiting to have sex because I’m aware of the consequences of having sex at a young age.”
— Zeke, 12, Minneapolis
“My parents have always talked to me about sex since I was little, so I’ve kind of always known that it’s okay to wait. I think that all my friends’ parents have talked to them also. So, we’re all alike in that sense.”
— Svea, 12, Minneapolis
“From whatever grade I started learning about sex, I’m just like, ‘it’s bad if you’re not married.’ What’s really sad is I have so called ‘friends’ in my grade that talk about how wonderful sex is with their 17-23 year-old boyfriends. And no offense, but I think that’s sick and they need help! So, my friends don’t effect me at all. My parents help and my teachers are great.”
— Vanesia, 12, Willmar
“My friends and parents have made me feel good about not having sex at a young age.”
— Kreig, 13, Alexandria
“I’ve been in a serious relationship for a long time and most people assume we are sexually active. This is tough, but people have in some ways come to see us as role-models. Let yourself be who you want to be. It’s your life, not your friends’ and you have to live with your consequences. You would be surprised at how many people aren’t having sex.”
— Kelsey, 18, Staples-Motley
“Pregnancy changes peoples lives… I made a decision to wait and will stick with that.”
— Anthony, 18, Pequot Lakes
“My parents have taught me that waiting to have sex until I’m married is a wise and required decision. Some of my friends haven’t yet grasped the importance or logic involved in waiting.”
— Maria, 15, Pequot Lakes
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