Tips on how to say not yet:
- “I don’t want to risk getting pregnant.”
- “I’m not ready to have a baby.”
- “I don’t want to worry about getting an STD.”
- “I want to hold onto my virginity.”
- “I just want to have fun with my friends.”
- “I want to concentrate on school.”
- “I don’t want to disappoint my parents.”
- “I want to keep playing sports.”
- “I want to go to college.”
- “I have my period.”
- “If you care about me, you’ll respect my decision to wait.”
Other tips:
- Don’t put your self into a situation where you’re alone with your date.
- Avoid drugs and alcohol because they can effect your decision-making ability.
- Hang out with friends that have also made the decision to wait.
Tips from other teens on how to say not yet…
Say, “I love you, but we don’t have to have sex yet. We don’t need children right now. Let’s wait.”
— Tina, 12
“Say no. Wait until you can support your family.”
— Jesse, 13, Duluth
Say, “I want to make something out of my life not be a mommy!" or "I don’t want to ruin my life with a child and STDs, I’m sorry!”
— Karen, 12
“Not having sex is the right way to go. Even if others are pressuring you into it.”
— Kreig, 13, Alexandria
Say, "I’m proud to be a virgin and am going to stay that way!"
— Jena, 13
“Don’t listen to other people who pressure you to have sex.”
— Elton, 12, Minneapolis
“If you choose to wait, you’re not alone.”
— Svea, 12, Minneapolis
“It’s okay to say NO!”
— Vanesia, 12, Willmar
Tips on how to talk to your parents about sex…
“Be open and ask them anything.”
— Jesse, 13, Duluth
“You should talk straight to them and they should listen and care about what you think.”
— Kreig, 13, Alexandria
“Even if you don’t want to, talk to them. You’ll feel a lot better.”
— Samantha, 14, Ogilvie
“Just be straight forward and don’t be afraid because it will make it a lot easier to talk to your parents about personal things.”
— Valerie, 14, Willmar
“Ask your parents to talk straight. No more Mr. Stork!”
— Vanesia, 12, Willmar
“Listen, that’s for sure. Don’t be scared to ask questions either.”
— Matt, 16, Mankato
“Don’t be nervous…be honest.”
— Chris, 14, St. James
“How to Talk to Your Parents,” Teen Advice
http://teenadvice.about.com/c/ht/
00/07/How_Talk_Parents0962933702.htm [Attn: Non-MDH Link]
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